Random Things in Motion #18: Things That Changed Since I Started Blogging

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Random Things in Motion is where we share all of our random thoughts at the moment.

Let’s be honest: a lot of things changed about my lifestyle and personality since I started blogging. Here are some things that have changed about me:

1. My self-confidence has improved. Come on–I’ve chatted with my favorite authors (some who are extremely popular–eek) and even publicists on Twitter and via email. With that in mind, I can go up to the counter at McDonald’s and shamelessly ask for extra gravy! Okay, well, not shamelessly, but I can do it on my own now.

2. I read a wider range of books. Duh. Before blogging, I just bought whatever the heck bookstores had in their Teen Bestsellers list, regardless of whether or not they would be me books. Believe it or not, I wasted a lot of money on books I haven’t read even until now. Now I can easily weed out which books I don’t want to read from the ones I do want to.

3. I have realized how “real” internet friends are. I was part of a lot of online communities before I blogged, but then I only interacted with the people every now and then. But now I’ve met bloggers in real life and it’s just the best! It’s fantastic how I’ve met all these people who I can rant to and who I can tell personal things to. :)

4. I’ve learned to be more careful with what I say. I used to be one of those people who blurt out whatever, whenever. Now I’ve learned to keep sass to a minimum just in case I might offend someone. I’m trying to be more respectful both in reviewing and talking to people in general.

5. I am now more patient. Because we booknerds have to wait for months (sometimes years–I’m looking at you, Rachel Hartman) to read sequels and new books by beloved authors. An half-our long wait to get into a popular restaurant is nothing now. ;) Plus I usually have a book to keep me company while I wait. And in case you didn’t know, book signings in our country require HOURS to wait… My patience has been tested. I am now a pro at waiting. Most of the time.

Have you changed since you started blogging/reading/reviewing? Have we changed in the same way?

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Aimee is a sixteen year old bookworm from the Phillipines! She reads any book that catches her attention, but she mostly reads YA. She's into graphic design, writing and sleeping. You can find her at Deadly Darlings, The Book Geek, Goodreads and on Twitter.

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  1. says

    Internet friends are THE BEST. I don’t really have very many that I can rant to or anything, but it’s so nice to have people to talk to who read the same things I do and people I can just get really excited about upcoming books with, since I don’t have that in real life. I WISH I could say that my self-confidence has improved, haha.
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    • Aimee says

      They ARE. And I’ve met a lot from those who live near me, and from there, our rants were born, haha. I have a few bookish friends in real life, but they’re not really as enthusiastic as I am about books. ;)

  2. says

    I was nodding along throughout this post. I am very opinionated, and it used to be so hard for me to hold my tongue. I’ve gotten much better at appeasing and not sharing my opinion when I know it would only upset or offend others. Twitter/bookish drama has been great practice! I love how many friends I’ve made both bloggers and authors alike. I read a much wider range of books too. My tastes back then were sooo embarrassing. Basically all I read was dystopian and paranormal. *covers head in hands* I think my patience has gotten slightly better since there are just so many books to keep me occupied. Also I feel I’ve been exposed to more diverse books now. Pre-blogging I wouldn’t know of half of the books I do now. Blogging is a great place for more bookish exposure!

    Another thing I’ve learned is more on the business side of blogging. I’ve learned so much about the publishing industry (both with publicity and publishing in general). I’ve also learned more about email and business etiquette. Working with publishers and publicists and authors has been an amazing experience!

    Lovely post, my dear <3
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    • Aimee says

      My friends know me for being the most honest, opinionated bitch in our circle of friends, and lately I’ve been more careful about what I say, haha. Yes to the bookish drama helping! Yes to the diverse books as well! If I never blogged, I wouldn’t have found out the fabulous We Need Diverse Books campaign. :)
      Email etiquette–yes! Now even just sending emails to my uncles make me nervous, haha.

  3. says

    I actually think I’m more outspoken now versus as shy in public. I still do get shy, especially in crowds but I’m more confident that I think I ever have been and I think that stems from socializing more online and in real life with people who love to read and yes, talking to publicists and authors really does help for whatever reason with that.

    Great post! I love all the “extras” you have gotten from blogging!
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    • Aimee says

      I’ve been a confident speaker since before I blogged, but now I’m okay with making the first move when it comes to socializing, which is pretty awesome. :)

  4. says

    All of these apply to me in a way. Especially about self-confidence and patience. Self-confidence because now I’m not afraid to express my opinion or do things on my own. And patience because… I have a bad temper. A very bad temper. But I’ve learned how to keep it in check, and I think that has to do with books honestly.

    Loved this post, Aimee :)
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    • Aimee says

      Yep! Now when I want to rant, I rant, and when I want to rave, I rave. Who cares about unpopular opinions? ;) So glad to hear your patience has lengthened!

  5. says

    This is a great post Aimee, and I have to agree with you on a lot of the points you’ve made, I’m definitely glad that I started blogging just because of the diverse range of books that I am recommended or stumble across and end up enjoying. I would never have known some of these books existed otherwise. I also do think that my confidence has come a long way since blogging, it’s always great when someone whose work you appreciate acknowledges your hard work and dedication!
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    • Aimee says

      Thanks, Jasprit! I think all of us have widened our reading preferences because of book pushing. ;) Oh, yes! That’s another positive thing to think of. :D

  6. says

    I’m not sure MY self confidence has improved, though I have to say I’m not ashamed to say I’m a book blogger (I talked about blogging on a course exam once – got advanced on it!). I definitely know a lot of my reading tastes now as well – plus, I’m not exactly going into the book “blindly,” per say. Sadly, I still prefer Paranormal, Fantasy, and Science Fiction even after blogging for awhile.

    Even though I don’t actually work publicists and publishers too much (let’s just say my self confidence hasn’t improved on that part – I’ve never been a conversation starter in the first place, but maybe one day I’ll get the nerve to contact a major publisher), I HAVE actually gotten to know the business side of publishing and every time someone says, “Oh, writing a book is easy,” I have the tendency to butt in and go on a long lecture about how writing a book is NOT easy. I imagine that conversation to be hilarious.

    I HAVE learned how to code though – back when I first started a gaming blog, I had no clue how to make a graphic design or a blog design on my own. My first design for Bookwyrming Thoughts was quite embarrassing. According to my business teacher, she now thinks I’m too advanced for her multimedia class. Oops.

    Let’s just say I’m not terribly sorry.
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    • Aimee says

      I don’t outwardly tell people that I blog, but if they ask, I answer that yes, I do blog. :) I still have preferences, but before blogging, I wouldn’t have touched a horror or thriller book–now I seek those out. ^_^

      Being an INT blogger, it’s definitely tough to get connections, but I’ve been trying more lately. :) And yes–writing a book is hard as crap! One of my blogger friends posted a photo on Twitter the other day, saying, “You tip a waitress for serving you a $6 cup of coffee, but you don’t want to pay $4 for an ebook.”

      That’s so awesome! I already had little graphic/coding knowledge before I started blogging myself, but I’d like to say I’ve improved. ;)

  7. says

    I have changed thanks to blogging as well, some the same ways and some different. I haven’t gotten more patient, I don’t mind waitign when I can do something else like readign a book, but else I still don’t like waiting. I totally agree with you on how real internet friends are, before blogging I never really thought ot that, but sicne I joined goodreads and then later a blog I’ve met some bloggers who feel like friends and it’s great. I also broadened my tastes more, I read so many more genres now, while before blogging I mostly read high fantasy before I branched out into different genres. I can talk with some authors online and it’s great that this is possible, but I don’t feel like it changed me much outside of social media. Blogging mostly changed how I read and how big my to-read pile is. Great post! It’s amazing to think of and realize how much we change due to blogging.
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    • Aimee says

      Ha. Well, I used to be EXTREMELY whiny when it came to waiting, but now I just sulk silently. ;D Yes to all the internet friends and being more active on social media! My to-read pile is GIGANTIC as well! <3

  8. says

    I think my patience is the same… short. But at the same time, I’m definitely a lot more wary on the things I said. I used to be like “don’t control me” on the internet but what i didn’t get is that no one controls me but the bad decisions i make will bite me later.

    something that i noticed is that i’m a lot happier. i’m not the most popular person in school and that used to bother me because i didn’t have many friends but now i’m like… okay, i don’t need those people. i have you “hugs”
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    • Aimee says

      Ha, I know. I used to say all the shit, on the internet and in real life. Now I try to think about whether or not I might offend someone.

      Aw, that’s so awesome, Nova! Who needs reality when you have us? :D

  9. says

    I’m with you 100% on points 2 & 4. On the negative side, I’ve also learned that some people just can’t quit being clique-y. Like you can tell they have this sense of superiority about them hidden under feigned friendliness, etc. They don’t think twice on making a dig if you make them defensive even in the slightest way.
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  10. says

    I agree with almost everything here, especially with the fact that my reading preferences having changed. Before I used to stay away from sci-fi or fantasy (I love fantasy, but I don’t read it most of the time), but ever since I joined this community, I’ve become more open to other book genres. And it’s so fun :D Internet friends are nice, but it would have been more fun to see them in person and be friends with them for real. Haha. :)
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    • Aimee says

      Oh yes! I used to stay the hell away from horror and thrillers, but now I seek them out, haha. :) And we should totally meet up sometime, Jillian! I love seeing blogger friends in real life. :)

  11. says

    YES to #1! I used to be terrified of making any requests or phone calls or emails – basically sucked at communication – but now it’s like, “psh, I’ve got this. I just sent emails requesting ARCs for crying out loud. I CAN CALL FOR A DOCTOR APPOINTMENT.”

    I still struggle with #4, not gonna lie. I tend to spit out what I’m thinking, and then I have to reign in my temper and reconsider if that’s what I truly want to say. But then I have to make apologies along with it – always a good time ;)
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    • Aimee says

      Oh yeah! I send emails to a pro–even sending emails to my uncle have to start with “Hi [uncle’s name]” and end in “All the best, Aimee.” Heh. ;)

      It’s the same with me sometimes! I do still like spitting out the truth, but I sensor the offensive stuff now. ;)

  12. says

    It’s more of an improvement actually: ever since I started blogging, I became more comfortable with my writing. I can now form more coherent thoughts and opinions than before when I would write messily. And it’s been a huge advantage for me at school. Also, like you, I discovered a spectrum of different books that I didn’t know existed!
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  13. says

    Wait, what? Your Maccas over there has gravy? GRAVY? Oh, I want ours to have gravy now too. It’s delicious on chips.

    My reviewing I can’t really look back and see how much it’s changed, only that I’m now more active with other reviewers and have made some forever friendships with some bloggers as a result as well. I only started blogging 6 months after joining Goodreads, before that, It has been over 15 years since I’d picked up a book. I know, that makes me sound really old. But I was still at school back then. Wow, it really has been THAT long. I’ve always been pretty opinionated, but mainly when standing up for others or someone that’s being an asshole. Nothing’s changed in that regard, but I think I tend to think before speaking (or posting now) to avoid looking like an asshole myself.

    You are absolutely fabulous Aimz and even in the short time I’ve known you, have really come out of your shell. I’m delighted, well and truly. I rely on your snark to brighten my day. Never change poppet, you’re adored just as you are <3
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    • Aimee says

      LOL, Kelly. ;)

      I’m still pretty opinionated right now, but you’re right on the asshole assessment and defending others! I would so be there, but I want to make sure that I don’t end up sounding like a bully.

      Thanks so much, Kelly Bear! I’m so happy to have met you as well. You always make my day! <3

  14. says

    Blogging has definitely helped me in so many different aspects. I’ve made some wonderful friends through Twitter (who i connect with and can message whenever and know that they are listening), I read so many different books now (not just one genre! i’M READING EVERYTHING!), And like you, i’m definitely more confident. I was never ashamed to be a reader and all my friends know i’m a reader but i just feel more ‘at home’ in my skin nowadays. It’s like I know there are more poeple like me out there and because of that i’m happy!
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    • Aimee says

      I love all my blogging friends, especially the ones who I rant to daily. ^_^ And that’s so awesome! I’ve been more open about my blogging and reading habits now too. <3

  15. says

    Definitely reading a wider range of books- just reading more books in general, I think. So many books I’m introduced to just because I see it on another blog!

    Gahh when people are all “internet friends aren’t real friends”, it’s like well what do you know grr. It’s great interacting with people over the internet, and even more fantastic when you finally get to meet the people in real life!
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    • Aimee says

      Actually I read more before, but it’s because high school’s busier than grade school., haha. ;) But DISCOVERING more books = yep.

      Exactly! Meeting booknerds in real life is the absolute best.

  16. says

    I think I have changed a lot in my reading. I read more genres, especially that of dystopia. I never used to read them at all but I have enjoyed so many recommendations. I’ve started my own bookclub online, which is a wonderful and proud feeling to have as well as feeling very proud in my writing and how passionate I write too. Who knew I had it in me. Lol. Great post.
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    • Aimee says

      I never used to read horror or thrillers, but now I actively look for them. :) And yay for the book club–that’s so awesome! <3

  17. says

    Awesome post Faye<3 I read a wide rang of genres now as well, before blogging I use to stick mainly to paranormal and literary fiction. I love internet friends! my mom thinks they're all trolls who are pretending to kidnap me LOL Asian moms, anyway I'm done. I think my self confidence has increased as well, I don't feel nervous when requesting a book from a publisher now xD
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    • Aimee says

      Wrong blogger, Benish! xD No worries though, happens all the time. :) But thanks! Haha, my mom too! But now that I’ve met a few in real life, she’s becoming more open to the idea. :)

  18. says

    Um, I must google what on earth gravy on fries is. Then I am assuming I have to consume it?

    Now, moving on. Definitely yes to #2! My goodness, my whole bookish preference was based almost solely on what Amazon said was recommended after I finished a book! It was so bad. So, so bad. Now I have started to read so many things that I never would have imagined.. and I also love them! I agree with #3 wholeheartedly, though I did learn this before blogging, with the help of a really fabulous mom group I ended up in somehow. Those girls are just amazing. And now, so are my blogging friends! It is so great to be able to know so many wonderful people!

    I am still horrible at #1. In fact, I am trying to compose interview questions for an author as we speak (which, I am clearly not doing, because I am visiting here!) and I am so sick to my stomach over it, I am convinced I have an ulcer. Emails to pubs are like getting teeth pulled, and I don’t know how I will ever interact with humans at BEA. Maybe one of these days I’ll get there!

    Love this post though, I am so glad you have gained so many amazing things since blogging! This community is just the best :D
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    • Aimee says

      You don’t eat fries with gravy?! Okay, I must be weird, haha.
      I didn’t even read based on recommendations–I just went with what was popular. o_o
      Aww that’s so awesome! I’m so glad to have met all the amazing bloggers here. <3
      I still double and triple check emails, but now when I send them I don't get fuzzies in my stomach! But interacting with people in real life is scary! Have fun at BEA. <3
      Thanks so much, Shannon!

  19. says

    I have discovered a lot more about the publishing world and the way I view authors has changed too. My patience is more or less the same, but that had changed quite a while back, but I must confess I have selective patience! ;) I can be patient with situations ans certain people, but not others!

    And I have indeed started reading a lot more in genres that I usually didn’t before I started blogging!
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    • Aimee says

      Same here. I’ve realized how much work can be put into just a single book! Yeah, there are just SOME people who really push your buttons!

    • Aimee says

      I’m still sassy when it’s still within that circle of respect. ;) I’m just more cautious now. And internet friends are the best!!

  20. says

    My biggest change is that I feel I am more open to diversity. I no longer attack others for having a different opinion, and I find myself open to a bigger range of humanity, such a culture, sexual orientation, and feminist ideas. I honestly feel that I am a BETTER person because of blogging. I can’t say that I have ever had a hobby that improved me more than it entertained me.
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