Random Things in Motion #19: My Book Ritual When I’m Angry


We all know that I’m a very picky reader. Being a very picker has its cons – I easily get angry when something happens in a book that I really, really don’t like or don’t condone. Like for example, in the latest book I read, there was this character who stumbled upon very important information that would help her Kingdom fight against something that could mean their life and death. Instead of sharing this important tidbit, the character decided to be and ass and refrain from telling them, using this lame-ass reason, “I’m not sure if I should, because I’m not sure if I’m sure.”

Well, it wasn’t like that, but that was the gist of that monologue. My reaction?

What the bloody fuck?

Other times, it’s when a superficial insta-love happens. Sometimes, it’s when a cringe-worthy romance takes over the rest of the book. Oftentimes, it’s when the asshole douchebag is portrayed as the romeo to our juliet, all his disgusting actions thinly disguised as “swoon-worthy”.

After having been angry many, many times with many, many books and many, many characters, I noticed something.

I actually have a pattern. Or a ritual. When I’m raging.

It totally blew my mind away how my behavior was so predictable when something in a book upset me. So, if you see me doing any of these things, my friends, don’t think I’m a mad woman on the loose – I’m just coping with a bad book.


What about you guys? Can you relate? Do you have your own book ritual?

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    • FayeFaye says

      And that is totally understandable, Maja! There are times when the furstration is too much I just go, “Ah, fuck it. Nevermind!” LOL

  1. says

    I will humbly admit I usually say, “Screw you” to the book and then throw it out. That’s typically what happens when I have a lot of other books to read. Now, if I don’t have a choice BUT to read it (come on, the required reads!), then maybe I’ll have some patience.

    I admit I have never actually used SparkNotes until The Great Gatsby. That was just a confusing book. o_o
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    • FayeFaye says

      Haha, I oftentimes do that, too, and then come back just to finish it and write my review. Although, there are times when a book is just so bad that I give up and say “screw you!” with a big, fat exclamation mark (usually meaning our relationship is over ofc) I don’t think I want to try The Great Gatsby myself… I just don’t have the motivation to try classics.

  2. says

    LOL I love this! I mumble a lot of simply talk out loud and utter things like “No freaking way.” Sometimes I slam my kindle closed in disgust and have to walk away other times I just stare off into space contemplating if I really just read that right.
    Funny how we all have our ways of coping with things that happen in books we just do not like.
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    • FayeFaye says

      Haha! The many times I’ve closed my Kindle to cool off are way too many to count… can’t even count in my hand. There was a time I thought it would break because I turned it on and off multiple times in one day. Haha.

  3. says

    I just. frigging. DNF. Sometimes I actually go on ahead to finish the book (for my entertainment ONLY) but some things like insta-love, love triangles and heroines who have surgically gotten their backbones removed are stuffs in books I don’t tolerate at all EVER. BUT OMG FAYE I THINK I MIGHT TRY YOUR TECHNIQUE TO BLOW OFF SOME STEAM
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  4. says

    I don’t think I actually have a ritual that I go through when I get mad with a certain passage, I do tend to however take a breather from before I’m able to continue with the book again, especially if it’s left me really vexed. Luckily this hasn’t happened with me lately, but that maybe because I’m reading so many yawn inducing books lately :( Thanks for sharing this post with us Faye, I had a lot of fun reading it :)
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    • FayeFaye says

      Yes, I take a breather a lot (this is why a lot of my currently reading shelf just… stay there… I take a break and FORGET I took a break LOLOLOL)

    • FayeFaye says

      Thank you, thank you! I’m such a nitpicky reader that it’s hard for me not to get angry after the first time I get angry XDD

    • FayeFaye says

      Yup, this is my in a nutshell… when I get too immersed, I get IMMERSED, and I feel WAAAAY too many things. Haha.

  5. says

    Bahaha—I totally agree with ALL OF YOUR METHODS HERE, Faye! Especially the: online ranting (what I usually do first on Twitter or through a quick sentence on Goodreads) and the breathing ritual. XD I usually lie down and just stare into space, clenching the book, usually leaving a dent. I know that if it’s a book from the library, I usually try to control myself from ripping it apart, not that I would ever do that to a precious baby, a good one or bad. Loved this post! :D
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    • FayeFaye says

      So happy we bookworms can relate in such an emotional level, Michelle! ;) We tend to get too immersed in books for our own bloody good! Hahaha! Clenching the book sounds really intense! I don’t do that BECAUSE KINDLE although there have been times I’ve wanted to throw it to a wall (poor Kindle, he did no harm after all).

    • FayeFaye says

      YOU ENJOY FUMING?! That’s surprising and very interesting! Haha. I don’t think my brother would enjoy it if I vent my frustration on him =))) And yes, books affect us way too much! I wouldn’t have it any other way, though XD

    • FayeFaye says

      Thank you so much, Cait! It’s amazing how you don’t vent it out somewhere O_O I don’t think I can internalise or else I’ll explode XD

  6. says

    I feel your pain, Faye! After blogging for nearly two years, I’ve turned into a really picky reader, and I rage a lot when I dislike something in a book.

    #1 is definitely something I would do as well! Except I won’t walk around in circles, haha. What happens is that I close the book, make a face, scream at the book, contemplate, sigh, and continue reading. xD
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  7. says

    Bahahaha I know have a permanent evil smile in place after reading your rant. I can def relate. When I’m sick if a book or something gets on my nerves, I tend to talk to myself (to vent) which can get kind of weird if someone catches me. Or I just roll my eyes, take a deep breath, and force my eyes back on my Kindle. (Only to repeat phase moments later) ugh.

  8. says

    I have deep and angry conversations with the book, basically. I yell at it, rant at it, all while still reading it. I don’t know why I feel like I have to keep reading it (or think that conversing with it is a good idea either!) but I get so mad and then still, I rarely give up! But I do agree that online ranting is by FAR the most cathartic :D
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    • FayeFaye says

      Hahaha! Deep and angry conversations! I really like the sound of that! I think the closest thing I’ve done that’s close to what you usually do was when I suddenly screamed in a restaurant while I was dining with friends (they were chatting, I was reading obvsly) and they were all like, “WHAT HAPPENED?!” “THIS BOOK HAPPENED, THAT’S WHAT.” LOL!

  9. says

    Usually when I’m not liking what’s happening in a book, I tend to shout or call out the stupidity of the characters. It’s weird but it does help relieve some of the frustration. But when I can’t take crap anymore, I close the book and cool off. Find something better to do lol.

    • FayeFaye says

      IT’S NOT WEIRD AT ALL, MIGUEL. I FULLY ENDORSE THIS SCREAMING ACT. I do it all the time. My grandma always gives me the stink eye XD

    • FayeFaye says

      WHOA, REALLY? You have such patience, Nara O.O Most books have something that tick me off… my 5 stars have been quite rare lately haha.

    • FayeFaye says

      I totally get why! Life is too short to dwell on bad books ;) I DNFed some and continued some, either way, it gets me a headache. Each. Time.

    • FayeFaye says

      I’m glad to see that I made you laugh, Lark! I have conversations in my head all the time, too… which includes a lot of yelling, mostly.

  10. says

    I so agree with this list! When I come across something that pisses me off in a story, I usually hop online (twitter) or message my close blogger friends on voxer and begin ranting. After we’ve discussed how ridiculous whatever the situation was, I’m usually ready to dive back in. This actually happened to me just yesterday lol!
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    • FayeFaye says

      Yesssss. It’s so great to have immediate blogging friends to rant to when you encounter a bump in a book XD

  11. says

    I’m usually very pacified even at rage. I think my anger threshold is big that I usually just dismissed the negative emotions while reading. But if I couldn’t take it anymore, I just stop reading & do something else. ;D

    • FayeFaye says

      Girl, just your presence alone is enough to soothe a soul ;) Your pacified-ness is felt through-out, that’s for sure!

  12. says

    Oh Faye, I take so much joy in reading your discussion posts. I have to admit that i’m very much like you. I pretty much do all you’ve said and i curse the book t like crazy. Some ‘throwing book against bedroom wall’ action may occur but that’s only if i loose my temper over something really stupid happening in the book. Which is possible. LOL
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    • FayeFaye says

      YES ALL OF US RAGING BOOKWORMS SHOULD UNITE UNDER ONE BANNER OR SOMETHING NBEUATIFUL AS THAT. I haven’t thrown a book yet but I’ve been close to doing it haha

    • FayeFaye says

      Yes, they actually make me feel calmer, until, of course, the next irritating thing happens. But wow, you’re so patient if you never let them get to you! I don’t think I can do that.

  13. says

    I’m really easy to please when it comes to reading, I think I can count on one hand the few occasions where a book has sent me into a rage. Most of them have been in the last six months strangely. It might be that I’ve read everything over and over again and getting sick of the same tropes. Even love triangles don’t really make me mad, I’m liable to roll my eyes and move on. The only issues that really drive me bonkers is the asshole protagonist. The womaniser who other book readers seem to fall in love with. I don’t discourage anyone from reading whatever takes their fancy, but come on. If women are falling in love with these fictional wankers, I weep for humanity. The other is cruelty to animals. I recently tried to read a poorly written book, where one of the main characters was psychotic and was killing small animals. No. Just no.

    But I rarely continue after that. Any book that resorts to shit like that, I’m not investing my time or anger in it. But thank goodness for Twitter. I can take my anger out in cryptic Tweets and whinge to my hearts content. But did you see the nipple conversation yesterday? Goodness, those girls :D :D
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    • FayeFaye says

      I get ya. Once you read a trope or cliché too many times, it can get really annoying really fast. I know I have started disliking some tropes that I used to love in the past. But seeing them over and over with bad writing to boot has made me quiet… impatient, to say it mildly. Haha. AND YEP ASSHOLE PROTAGONISTS NEVER FAIL TO GET UNDER MY SKIN, TOO. Why do the girls fall for dudes who treat them like shit? I’ll never understand it.

  14. says

    Love this post so much. I think many of us have to go through similar motions to calm ourselves down when we read something horrible. Though, I usually skip to online rant instantly haha. I always do #2 when I read something shocking or the book just becomes too much and I’m overflowing with the FEELS. Anyways, amazing post. :)
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    • FayeFaye says

      Indeed! The bottled up feelings cannot stay bottled up forever ;) I know for myself that I’ll have to channel that energy somewhere.

  15. says

    I lvoe all those pictures in this post and how you worded it as a step plan. I don’t really get angry a lot at books and when I do I usually rant against my boyfriend and he probably won’t read the book so I don’t have to be carefull to avoid spoilers. I also will mention things that get me angry in my reviews, but I try to avoid ranting on social media. I usually just read on and try to forget about it as don’t want to stand up and go to my computer to talk about it online.
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    • FayeFaye says

      Haha! It’s really amazing how predictable my pattern was! I wonder now that I’m conscious of it, my pattern would change somehow? Then again, if you’re caught up in the moment and the emotions are here, you just stop thinking about that kind of stuff.

  16. says

    If I run across something that completely ticks me off, and your example of withholding vital information would tick me off immensely, I’m tempted to DNF. I usually end up continuing on for sometime and then if it continues to piss me off, I won’t read anymore. I just can’t/won’t waste my time on reads that frustrate me. Life is too short to waste on an annoying read. Wonderful post, Faye! :)
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    • FayeFaye says

      Haha, I have that mentality when it comes to non-ARC books. If it’s an ARC, even if I’m past the tipping point, I’ll still *TRY* to continue because it’s an obligation. Other than that, DNF.

  17. says

    Side note: I think I saw you tweet something about that character last night (or a few nights before)! But anyway…

    YES, I DO THIS. I DO THIS A LOT. My angry book ritual is slightly different from yours, but I do steps #1 – #4 similarly. Most of the time it’s the romance that gets me (as you know, I’m super picky when it comes to romance). If I’m reading on my bed, I’ll close the book, look up and stare at the wall opposite me, rub my forehead, and sigh heavily. Need to let out all that pent-up frustration, otherwise I’ll just explode. I don’t walk in circles exactly, but I talk to myself about all the things that is going wrong with the book (with very strong language, ofc), complete with hand gestures because I like going all the way. :P And if that’s not enough, I discuss with myself more in the shower. I probably sound like a madwoman to you already, lol.

    And haha, I read the passage again too, just to torture myself and maybe to get myself worked up some more! xD I don’t usually rant about it until I write a review, but taking my anger to Twitter is starting to sound like a really good idea. So yep. I can totally relate to this!
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    • FayeFaye says

      ISN’T IT AMAZING DOING ALL THESE GESTURES CAN RELEASE THE PENT-UP FRUSTRATION?! I can just imagine you sighing heavily, megan XD But yes, sometimes you just need to do all of these to avoid the deadly wrinkles the stress will definitely give us .

      Twitter has been a great place for me to vent my anger. I always end up calmer afterwards!

  18. says

    LOL this is such a fun post Faye! I usually just shut the book and breathe in and out as well. I also curse out the characters if they get rather annoying. Insta love usually makes me want to give up, but I still keep going. I usually take a break and go watch netflix instead as well. Other times, I just DNF. I have DNF about five books back to back recently which kind of scares me :(
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    • FayeFaye says

      Thanks, Benish! Ugh, yes, that darn insta-love. I can tolerate certain love triangles, but insta-love? Makes me want to faceplant onto a wall for good measure.

  19. says

    I’m cackling because I do the “walking in circles” thing too except I don’t realize it until a while later!
    /SPOILER for THG/
    Like I don’t know if you remember (because most people don’t and I don’t know why it affected me so much) but when Darius from Catching Fire became an Avox I felt so angry at the Capitol and I was cursing them and walking in circles. I wasn’t really pissed with anyone except the Capitol which is what Suzanne Collins probably intended but maan, I was ANGRY. And also with that scene with Cinna in Catching Fire. I wasn’t upset. I was JUST SO ANGRY and kept walking in circles in the living room to cool down haha.

    But when it comes to characters who are annoying I just rant on my Goodreads status updates ;)
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  20. says

    I can picture you doing those things! I usually just make a mental note to include a mini-rant in my Goodreads update. Sometimes if I know one or more of my tweet peeps have read it I will tweet a short rant, if it doesn’t have to be spoilery. What I really hate is when something happens in a series from a favorite author. Then I WILL put the book down and play solitare on my iPod to calm down. :D
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    • FayeFaye says

      HAH! I’m dynamic just like that ;) HAHA! Playing games is definitely an alternative. Takes your mind off things (read: awful things).

  21. says

    When I get upset, I usually vent to someone. I also have a habit of rolling my eyes. My most horrible habit is grinding my teeth together – reading shitty books/situations is bad for my health!

    But now that you mention it, I think I also walk for a bit when something pisses me off – I never noticed it until you brought it up.

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    • FayeFaye says

      YESSS! Venting helps a damn lot. Thank goodness for friends that also act as support groups XDD

      Me neither! I only realized I kept walking when my grandmother scolded me. Said I looked like a cuckoo.

    • FayeFaye says

      Haha. It’s either everyone’s walking or looking at their ceiling! But complaining on Twitter seems to be that one thing we all have in common ;D

  22. says

    I haven’t got a book ritual, but reading this kind of makes me want to! Not that it’s good to be frustrated by a book, but it’d be nice to have a bunch of things (a list, no less!) to do that I can accomplish and know I’ll be able to go back to the book without feeling as irritated as before. Oftentimes, for me, when I get to something so incredibly annoying like the things you mentioned in a book, I am as likely as not to just give up- there are so many more books to read!
    I hope you also take the time to have a piece of chocolate, as part of your ritual, for the effect of the bookish troubles! xx
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    • FayeFaye says

      Haha, chocolates definitely help, but if I take it everytime, I’d end up gaining weight, as too many things annoy me! Haha.

  23. says

    Oh Faye, I can imagine your reactions based on your pattern you listed. It really shows how much you love reading books and how much invested you are with it.
    I can totally relate with this. One time, I almost throw a book out of my window because of insta-love and their cheesy lines! I really did and that was the first time I experienced that feeling towards a book.
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    • FayeFaye says

      AWww, thanks Irish! Although sometimes I think I am way too expressive for my own good :D It’s going to bite me in the ss one day! Haha. Ughhh, insta-love and cheesy lines are one way-tickets to ranthood.